How do you let your boyfriend know that you love him and you think your ready, but are scared?

Okay so I have been dating the guy of my dreams for like 4 months. We broke up once, but even after we broke up we talk like nothing was wrong and got back together. So how do I tell him I think I might be ready to have sex, but I am really scared cause he graduates next year and is going to the army. Plus I am 16 and he is 18 and it would be my first time. Help?How do you let your boyfriend know that you love him and you think your ready, but are scared?
First there are several red flags here.


It takes a lot longer than 4 months to really know someone well and know what they are, and you have already broken up once.


He is an adult you are a minor that could send him to prison and close his military career forever.


The military changes people and he will not be around once he joins,and he will be exposed to a lot of hot chicks on the bases.


You have not graduated H.S. yet and can not support a baby much less yourself.


Sex makes babies and you have no guarantee you'll be together 20 yrs from now.Everyone changes a lot between the ages of 15-25 and chances are you will never marry this boy.


No hon, you may be ready for sex but you are not ready for the consequences of sex.If things do not work out, you get to wear the label of ';whore'; ,even if you get married to him later(I doubt you do)


you'll wear that label until you do, and if he gets stationed somewhere and you end up pregnant and he gets killed, they do not give death benefits to illegitimate children.


No to sex, you need to date at least a yr and then get married if you love each other and if he won't marry you, then he does not love you enough to trust you and want to spend the rest of his life with you.


Sex is not love and does not guarantee love.How do you let your boyfriend know that you love him and you think your ready, but are scared?
Sorry hun but i have to greed with the first answer. You say you are ready but you are really not unless you really want to send this boy to jail and mess up his chase of being in the army plus on top of that might have a baby with him too. So don't do it
Ignore the first answer, no one can tell you when you are allowed to have sex whether they think it should be after marriage or not. I'm 16 too so I understand some of the problems you are feeling.


It is the strangest issue for me when it comes to sex because I am thinking about doing something incredibly big, that will change me forever and take us to a new level of our relationship.


But I came to the conclusion after really getting to know what I want that I am not ready for sex no matter how old I am or who else is doing or what some guy is saying I personally don't feel ready so I raised the bar for me now. Not until I'm 17+ and really in love. I have heard friends who have done it to get it over with say it was alright but they kinda regret it and I think that was because they weren't in love, it is called love making for a reason.


I'm not gonna tell you what to do because sex is your decision. Having sex outside of marriage does NOT label you as a whore or put you down in anyway because the majority of the planet are doing it.


So ask yourself these questions:


Are you in love with this guy?


Are you ready to give up your virginity?


Are you personally ready for the experience?


Think ahead to when you aren't with this guy (your only 16 so it's very unlikely that you still will be) will you look back and think I am happy I had my first time with him?


Will he show respect over this issue and when it happens?


Will he hold it against you if you break up in the future and portray you in a light that is untrue?


Are you ready to accept whatever may happen after wards?


Do you think that 4 months with a guy is long enough to have sex with him for the first time ever?


The fact that you asked this question at all shows your doubt and the fact that you are scared adds to my conclusion that you really aren't ready and if you have sex with this boy you may regret it.


You need to ensure that you are NOT having sex to keep him faithful when he leaves for the army. I have also faced this as my now ex is in the army and he was a dick to me but I still love him even though I can't trust him and can never put myself in that position again.


Really I would recommend you wait till you find someone closer to your age who understands more clearly exactly how you feel. If your boyfriend can't handle that then you should be thankful you didn't do it.


If it's what you truly want however, go for it. I can't predict the outcome of either option but so long as you stick to your morals and standards and what YOU think is right :) I'm sure you will be fine.
LOVE