How can she do this to us?

Hello, i have just found out the password to my daughters account. I was reading through the questionns and answers, and a lot of these questions are about lying to both her father and me to sneak around with her boyfriend. How could she do this? And how does she think she could get away with this?How can she do this to us?
Wow, you are going to have to have a serious talk with her...How can she do this to us?
How could you go into her account and violate her privacy? Unless she gave you her password, you're both at fault. She might've felt that you wouldn't approve of what she was doing, so she kept it a secret. Or maybe she thinks that your rules are too strict, and therefore you don't trust her. And would she have gotten away with it if you hadn't broken into her account? Maybe you need to pay more attention to her life, and try to be the person she goes to when she has problems. You need some more trust in your relationship. (Btw, how old is she?)
Perhaps because you are being too restrictive on your girl. It might also be because you do not trust her enough so she thinks she has to go around your constant surveillance and cheat her way out. Obviously, that is probably not all there is, but talking with her about this without outburst of anger would be the best way out since you can't lie to her that you've already searched through her account which is as bad as what she did.
The more you don't trust her, the more she is going to do stuff like this.


Obviously, you don't have a good enough relationship with her and are not a stable enough family to talk about having a boyfriend. This is really your fault.





And the sneaking through her PERSONAL account that was not meant for ANYONE to see other than her is another story. So since it wasn't meant for you to EVER see. I suggest you don't bring it up.





Now all you CAN/SHOULD do is work on having a better relationship with her, letting her know you trust her but would like to know what she is really doing.
Ha ha too bad for her, she probably didn't think you would ever found out her password. Your a good mother, I suggest don't yell that will make it worse. If you told her about the password then she'll probably change it so then you can't find out even more horrible secrets, so don't tell her you know her life story. Just tell her you've heard rumors, or that you saw her somewhere with him, but that too is lying ha ha.... but it is for unselfish reasons.
Its no coincidence that parents who have no respect for their children as individual persons and no regard for their privacy are themselves not respected or trusted by their children.





I often said bogus things or said I was doing stuff I wasn't just to catch my mother snooping or to hurt her feelings (as punishment for snooping). I knew if she went into things she shouldn't she would see something that might hurt her feelings. It was the only way I could get back at her for snooping. Funny thing is to this day I don't think she knows I know she snooped. This can seriously hurt your relationship. I suggest you let it go. Learn from this and be a better parent and maybe she will tell you on her own terms eventually.





At 15 she is old enough to date and have a personal life. She shouldn't have to sneak around to do these things. It is your fault she lies to you because you can't be trusted.
Wow, kids today? If this was my daughter I think there would be allot of conversations going on in regards to the topic of this question. Sounds like no matter what you do your daughter is going to keep on doing what she is doing. I personally would educate her in all area's of sexual relationships, take her to the doctors and put her on the pill, get the doctor to talk to her and advise her of all the negative things that come along with being in a sexual relationship (eg; pregnancy, STD, heartbreak when her boyfriend is done with her etc. Really that's the best thing you can do. Grounding her and keeping them apart will only lead to more deception ect. Good luck..
Isn't that what kids do? I know I did...but I don't consider myself a hellion at that age. My kids aren't at that age yet, but I have to say that as a glass-half-empty kind of girl, I'm going to be expecting this behaviour. I hope you have a really, really good reason for hacking into your daughters account. How you going to explain that one to her? Doesn't exactly inspire the trust you seem to expect.


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EDIT: So she's secretive and deceptive...what 15 year old isn't? Unless she's in danger, I do not feel this warrants a privacy violation. She must have done something to raise your suspicions otherwise, why would you start snooping? You should just go with your motherly instincts next time. Does a parent need proof? Nope. We are entitled to say 'no' without reason...just one of our 'perks'.
she did it because she thought, and or knew, you guys wouldn't approve of it...........it's something to do. and she thought she could get away with it because you didnt know her password...........until now of course. BTW, you have every right to go through her stuff, duh ppl. :)
She thinks she can get away with it because she IS getting away with it. Honestly, this is very typical teenage behavior. They are going to want to rebel, disobey, lie to their parents, you name it. As much as we may dislike it, they will do what they want to do.
i'd have a heart to heart with her about being honest with you, and you guys working together, etc. i don't think punishing is the way to go, just try to communicate and repair your relationship. she'll only get sneakier if she wants.
shes normal, dont freak out, try and work on a way to comprimase on the issues shes lied to you about in the future. annnnnd why are you hacking into your kids emails anyway
You act like u never knew.





You were a teenager once. You can not tell me, u were completely honest with your parents.





You should have expected this before. Since u were young once too.
Maybe because you are breaking her trust and using her password to check up on her.
More important question, why are you snooping through your daughters stuff? That's just wrong!
Haha poor you, talk to her, and log off!!
ground her